"Posted @withrepost • @theconsciouskid “Research shows that Black children experience harsher disciplinary action at school, their neutral facial expressions are viewed as more aggressive & threatening than their white peers, & they are more likely to be expected to misbehave even when engaging in normal play. When it seems like Black children are mistreated for expressing anger, fear, joy, or for simply existing, it can be a daunting task to figure out how to best protect them from harm while also allowing them to live & thrive unapologetically. Here are a few things to consider from the research:
1. Strike a Balance: It is reasonable to encourage children to control their emotions & monitor their behavior in certain contexts—such as with teachers & administrators, law enforcement, and unknown adults—in an effort to decrease their chances of being harmed. Research shows that not talking to Black children about racism & what they may witness or experience can actually lead to more distress later, due to the shock of unexpected exposure. However, excessive suppression of emotions without an outlet can lead to depression, anxiety, acting out, & can even take a toll on cardiovascular health. For balance, caregivers can encourage children to feel comfortable expressing their emotions at home & with close friends & extended family.
2. Processing Emotions is Essential: As adults, experiencing or witnessing racism can be extremely emotionally upsetting. So imagine how overwhelming it must be for children, who are still developing the skill of managing their emotions, to experience or even learn about racism. Research shows that validating and being sensitive to children’s feelings of fear, anger, and sadness helps them learn to effectively cope with these emotions. It also helps to prevent depression, anxiety, & behavior problems. Validation & sensitivity comes in many forms, including allowing children to express their feelings, comforting them with affection & reassuring words, & problem solving with them. Here are some questions you can ask your child the next time he or she is upset by images they see in the media or something that happened to them:”
